Notes for parents of 5 th grade, in relation to the unit "Human Reproduction and education for love"
1. A Unlike girls with changes, on reaching puberty, forcing mothers to provide care and explanations in the case of men remains uncommon for his father come forward to perform the same task.
2. Some think that the 10 to 11 years is unnecessary and that his son lacks any interest or concern about this issue. That the problem affects children of other families who have almost nothing to do with his style.
3. In addition, many parents-think-the Environmental Awareness classes and Religion, provide scientific and moral enough to that age. Do not forget that one thing is what children are studying in other books and what they experience in themselves or their environment.
4. Everyone has a great curiosity, which is indicative of the profound influence and the condition of man-sexed male or female-exercised in the formation of their personality: they are very attentive to the conversations of parents who try, even incidentally, these issues ; search for words in dictionaries: and, unfortunately, still coming reductionist interpretations and morally degrading anthropologically.
5. Tend to adopt imitative behaviors, and experience with games and fictions that reveal the deep fascination starting to feel. Unfortunately, some take vicious practices, with limited moral responsibility, but which hinder the formation of an integrated personality.
BODY CHANGES
6. Begin to experience growth and penile erection. It's very rare that a parent should explain that the accumulation of blood in those tissues, such as an inflated balloon of water which is no longer limp-day to allow the husband deposited the seed of life inside the body of the wife.
7. So they tend to relate it to something "dirty." Let them see that often occurs spontaneously as part of their growth and maturation. It helps a lot listening to his father that these body changes, and others must also be accompanied by a maturation of his character. God prepares them long to arrive one day be capable of great love, with his future wife, can cooperate with God in the appearing of the most wonderful new creation: a new human person called to be God's child , and love may be their origin. So you learn to grow in love and who they can help you: Jesus and his parents, and the priest and teacher. When you are not educated well, then it is very difficult for him to love well. And if he fails in love, suffering and does suffer a lot. Do not be no shame to ask anything about sex, because what God has done good is not shameful.
8. Should also explain that these body movements can cause a little discomfort, and that it is improper to place the body organs, or engage in the necessary hygienic cleaning. But sometimes they can awaken impure imaginations or induced by the warning of sexual values. other real or imagined. In such cases we must learn not to move from "seeing inevitable" to "look voluntary," or remove obscene imagination focusing on what they do or something they like and it's good: talking, singing, reading, remembering a great game or movie, think attractive plans, etc. It is always a good time to seek the protection of the Virgin Mary, Mother of Fair Love, to help them succeed in their education for love. Should be to make it clear that only can be serious sin that can be seen and fully aware (and not occurrences that are not supported, dreams, nocturnal emissions that will appear below, although accompanied by pictures, etc..).
9. When they have done something that disturbed them, the best can do is talk to the priest who will teach them to distinguish what is right and wrong, which is more or less severe. And if they have done, or suffered of others, especially if they are of the same sex, something they are too shy, with more reason to discuss it because it will be very peaceful and happy forever.
10. When they have a nasty habit, but not overdone moral responsibility and will help the confessor, should not downplay it (like it was just a burp), helping them to reject with energy and with the help of God, sometimes associated with these practices. So learn how to integrate their sexuality with their freedom and will be capable one day of self-giving love.
11. Should make them see that as man is able to use his powers so unnatural (the intelligence to do harm to insult the language), also can be misused sex organs. What they call a "straw" (masturbation) is an unnatural behavior, that even animals practice, except imitative behavior of monkeys. Can respond to those who invite them to these "experiments" that is placed beneath them.
12. It can and must speak well what God has done good: sex, female beauty girls. But nor are they pigs or cows are girls, and they must know how to cut conversations of others who have an exclusively zoological these realities. But it should also help them understand the difference between an impure conversation, a taco, a hot joke. Although it sounds bad in the mouth of a well educated guy, not everyone has the same moral significance. Not all "dirty" or "impure" in the same measure. Seriously impure expression and incitement of the desire to perform a sexual act - "make love" - \u200b\u200bwith a girl (with kids tend not to speak), because that act is true and good where is the physical expression of love from husband to wife. And not when a person simply used as an object of pleasure offends the dignity of love, the dignity of one who speaks well and the person who does not speak.
Explaining sexuality should avoid a utilitarian approach ("it is to bear children") or hedonic (pleasure is to produce "). Sexuality is a dimension of love-oriented person and very specific profound: the spousal love. And the spousal love between man and woman, when a donation is truly committed, faithful "indissoluble marriage" and open to the gift of children. The pleasure that accompanies conjugal union is more than just a physical pleasure is the joy of a personal communion and total
Modesty
13. All this has much to do with cleaning up the look ("lamp of your body is your eye," "you better get one-eyed in eternal life," who looks forward already committed adultery in his heart "). Children ones may not even shame, because they have very little developed their privacy. But after intimate things they surround themselves with modesty: do not talk about issues of family or close friends with curious strangers. Not because they are bad, but rather because they are a treasure-joys, sorrows, challenges, projects, shared with family members or give close friends. Something similar happens with the human body in its sexual values: they surround themselves with shame, because you only share with your loved one in marriage, and not being subject to any curiosity or for display.
14. The loss of modesty itself, or lack of development, human impoverishment. And so it is necessary to educate on what is already a natural movement: the conjugal act is not performed in public, not because bad, but because it is intimate. The kids have to see their privacy respected body, like her sisters. We must protect this area especially in summer activities and sports groups. As important is the way we dress at home that is not the same pool or sports field (not to attend the Holy Mass).
15. There are depictions of sexual acts or the human body in advertising photography and film, using the claim of sexual values \u200b\u200bas a means to attract attention and set the interest, appealing to non-rational, instinctive reactions of man. In such cases, it offends the dignity of the persons represented, dignity of the beholder and it degrades the environment, degrading the true meaning of love. When selecting magazines, videos and television programs, these values \u200b\u200bmust be taken into account. And if it is necessary to interrupt a program, is also very useful to explain the reasons for this choice: it is not irrational taboos defend, but to live at the level of the dignity of the person, without being manipulated. The art has to treat all human subjects, good and bad, without the need of those claims. As has been able, not infrequently, to represent the beauty of the naked body reflecting the glory of the human creature, without causing a bad desire that perverted minds. But the good porn circulating not intended to reflect the glory of the human creature, but that degrades.
16. Those who spread these representations selling them, teaching them to peers, etc.., Commit a sin of scandal that forced, to repair the damage (as well as drug traffickers or those who spread it.) And any normal person can and must, as is in his hand, prevent the spread of this corruption.
OTHER PRECAUTIONARY
17. The kids are imitative tendencies that lead them sometimes experiments (with replacement objects a girl, or between them). You have to know not to tragedies of child behaviors and, in turn, to emphasize their abnormality (an abnormal like bestiality).
18. So what helps them most in education for love is to see the example of faithful and devoted parents: that is stronger than all the pressure of a neurotic atmosphere by a reductive vision of man and of sexuality separated from true love-that comes in multiple messages.
19. It would be naive to be afraid to hurt your sensitivity and let smash that environment. It is preferable not to ask directly, but assume what is normal ("at your age, guys are going ..."), or forward to find a solution to what is not normal ("there are kids who, at your age and the desire to experience and ignorance make ...,"). "When you pass you, or if you happened to you, you have to do is ..."). It helps a lot to check that their parents understand and help them understand and teach them to relate what they are going to experiment, and their struggles with love in all the beauty that is according to God's plan.
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